Thanks to inspiration from June Buggie on Rumpy Dog, I took the great leap and made a change to my site appearance. I’m not happy with the header but am still working that out.
I am not changing my gravatar. I’ve noticed lately, a lot of folks changing appearance and their gravatars. Making this appearance change has caused me to reflect on the changes in my blog from my initial idea of “what” it was to be, to what it is now.
I think of blogs I have followed, unfollowed, commented on….changes I’ve seen in those I’ve been following as long as I have been blogging.
My husband and I went through a rough patch recently because I was making changes in me – actually, reverting to what I enjoyed before I met him. So I guess, not really changes but recycling. I’ve found a new depth in that reversion. It frightened him because I was “not the woman he married”. We’ve weathered through that and he realizes, that in 13 years, he is not the man I married. We celebrate our 13 years of marriage today and based upon a long conversation last night, we are comfortable now with our changes. I finally pulled out my wazikashi a month ago and showed him. I literally had to pick him up off the floor and when I showed him that I actually knew how to use it, he was astounded. But as he said, it finally solved the mystery of why I was so good with the totally rocking Luke Skywalker lightsaber he gave me for Christmas.
He did ask why the wazakashi rather than the katana. I just gave him “the look”. Hello, I’m 4’10” tall. He went, oh yeah, you’re a little short for that long blade. Or as my samurai more elogquently put it, “Misosazai, by the time you draw the katana, your head will be on the ground at your feet. this sword is more in keeping with your height. It is unworthy of your valor, but, we must be realistic.” and so saying, he put Minamikaze (South Wind) for the first time, in my hands.
My husband isn’t as afraid Minamikaze anymore or me or changes – as as afraid. He’s 10 years younger than I so it is harder for him to adjust – ironic, yes?
I imagine there will be changes of all kinds. If you ain’t changing, you aren’t growing and if you ain’t growing, you’re dead.
Here’s to life, growth, future blogging, and 13 lucky more years with my husband. Y’all live long and prosper and the Force with be you.
kanzen sakura 
Aug 05, 2013 @ 19:30:39
“He who isn’t being born is busy dying.” I love the change; there’s something “familiar” about it. 😀 And congratulations on the anniversary! I wish you all the happiness in the world.
AB
Aug 05, 2013 @ 19:50:55
Thank you. I think we’re gonna make it now! 🙂
Aug 07, 2013 @ 07:49:51
What a thoughtful post many couples can relate to.
Aug 07, 2013 @ 07:51:46
I don’t mean to take up your time — but from the comment contribution above mine (and my similar feelings), seems you’ve done your job in the writing according to my latest post.
Aug 07, 2013 @ 08:54:43
I do thank you. In spite of typos (I actually decided to keep them in), I was satisfied. Change of any kind can be frightening and frightening on different levels. When I was born, my father planted a cherry tree. When I graduated from college, he cut the tree down and made a box of the wood. He presented the box to me and said, “This box represents years of growth and change. But – do not let this box be the end of the growth. Rather, let it be the keeper of mementos of changes; let it be the unworded journal of growth.” through the years, items have gone into the box and items have been taken out. Some things have been put back into the box. Such it is with my life. Thus I have taken his advice with the box and my life.
Aug 07, 2013 @ 23:47:34
Precious story and the lesson therein.
Aug 07, 2013 @ 17:02:38
Congratulations on your anniversary! Growing together is something very special.
I like your new background.
Aug 07, 2013 @ 17:13:53
Thank you! That means a lot coming from such an intelligent and classy individual such as yourself. We bipeds need you four legged folk to point us in the right direction.
Aug 12, 2013 @ 19:13:08
Long overdue but your site remains absolutely beautiful. Though I have a feeling that this would remain true regardless of how it looks as long as you keep filling it with your wonderful words. Congrats on working through everything and here’s to successful change!
Aug 12, 2013 @ 19:38:44
Thank you so very much! You are always so kind. > Date: Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:13:10 +0000 > To: thspencer51@hotmail.com >
Aug 15, 2013 @ 09:28:18
Congrats on your anniversary. I too have hit 13 years and have seen changes a-plenty.
Aug 15, 2013 @ 12:51:51
It’s amazing, isn’t it?
Aug 21, 2013 @ 13:52:41
I love your point that we all change. It would hard for each of us to be the same person we married thirteen years later. I am glad you have favorably adjusted to your recycling. <– that word caught me off guard and made me smile.
Aug 21, 2013 @ 19:25:35
I do that sometimes……catch folks off guard. My brain isn’t always wired according to electrians’ standards. LOL. But it truly is recycling. There were things I liked doing before I was married and had stopped….I decided the time was right to bring them back out of the box and get them going again. Unfortunately, I recycled some of my old hippie style clothing and jewelry. But then, Boho is chic now!!! Let’s just hope leisure suits stay buried…Thank you for reading and commenting. + > Date: Wed, 21 Aug 2013 17:52:42 +0000 > To: thspencer51@hotmail.com >