Throwback Tuesday – a little more romance

Last night, my husband and I were listening to a radio station that plays hits of the 80’s and 90’s. I was ironing clothes and he was washing dishes. Nice, dull domesticity. Then, on the radio began yet another one of Rick Astley’s wonderful danceable songs. I started shaking my hips and I heard my guy drying his hands. In a breath, he grabbed and pulled me to him and we began to dance. He smiled down at me, “Remember the first time we danced to this?” I grinned and said, “oh my yes!”. And we danced ourselves into a sweat.

Years ago, at the wedding reception of one his numerous cousins, we were sitting at a table and watching the bride and groom gyrate and several guests twisting, jumping, clogging, whatever it was…this song came on, an oldie the DJ had thrown into the mix in an effort to get more people on the dance floor and a song with a definite beat that anyone could follow. It was Rick Astley’s “Never Gonna Give You Up”. Inside, I cringed. This song had had a lot of meaning to me when it came out in 1987 but now it just meant memories and heartache.

My husband and I had been dating several months and felt a definite connection along with our many similar interests: odd bits of Trivia, Star Trek, Civil War history, mathematics, good food, and dancing. It never ceased to amaze me, considering how clumsy he was at some things, how well he could dance and how good he was in martial arts. We enjoyed each other’s company but me holding back, afraid of another massive heartbreak. He sensed it but never pried.

So, that song came one and he took my hand and said, “let’s dance”. I shook my head. “It’s a good one. Let’s show these folks how it’s done”. Reluctantly I stood up and we stepped out on the small floor. In about a minute, we had people standing up, watching, clapping in time. At one point, he pulled me close and sang in my ear:
Never gonna give you up
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you…

I gave him a little push and said, Don’t. Don’t sing, just dance. He looked down at me and before I knew it, he had dipped me down in a graceful  Latin tango dip. Close to my lips he whispered, “That was him. That was then. This is me. This is now”. I looked up into his sweet blue eyes and thought of another pair of eyes – brown, almond shaped, who had left a few years earlier. I closed my eyes and my love came closer and kissed me. This sweet man, 10 years younger and a private romantic had laid it out for me. He pulled me back up into his arms and we did one last swirl. The music ended. We stood looking at each other and his relatives all cheered and clapped. We then went back to our table to sit. Several cousins came by and said, We didn’t know he even knew how to dance! I thought, there is a lot you don’t know about this quiet, serious man. I thought, there is a lot I don’t know.

A couple of months later, he used another Rick Astley song to propose to me. And it is true, when he sang those words, he meant them. So…..If you haven’t had a dance with the love of your life lately, or sang them a love song, or grabbed them and kissed them as if it was your second date, then do it. And hey, let’s dance!

44 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. The Persecution of Mildred Dunlap
    May 06, 2014 @ 15:40:49


  2. Let's CUT the Crap!
    May 06, 2014 @ 17:26:15

    I just wanna dance.
    A tune hard to ignore and easy to dance to.
    Your love story has made me smile. Lucky girl, you are. ❤ ❤


  3. AinaBalagtas
    May 06, 2014 @ 17:28:33

    sounds so nostalgic, and very romantic!


  4. BloomLisa
    May 06, 2014 @ 17:29:50

    What an open hearted post. I too have an affinity for the hits of the 80’s and 90’s! I must say, what a beautiful story of living in your heart and not letting fear stand in the way of happier tomorrows!


  5. sheridegrom - From the literary and legislative trenches.
    May 06, 2014 @ 18:00:10

    Kanzen – There’s nothing more blissful than that one soul-mate who finally understands you, knows what you need almost before you do and accepts you unconditionally in every stage of life. I’m so grateful you have that soul-mate in your life.


    • kanzensakura
      May 06, 2014 @ 21:11:09

      I am truly blessed. No matter what happens, this I know I have. I pray for everyone to have such. he is a rare treasure and after 14 years, he is still my sweet lad. Thank you.


  6. writingwingsforyou
    May 06, 2014 @ 18:37:15

    I loved this post so much! It reminded me of my guy….He will stop and dance with me anywhere, anytime. The grocery store, a parking lot, etc. I used to kind of be a little embarrassed, and now, I just enjoy every bit of his affection for me. You’ve inspired me so much, I’m going to have to do my own throwback Tuesday. Thanks for sharing!


    • kanzensakura
      May 06, 2014 @ 20:20:38

      My husband and I have done many a quick step or jive in a grocery store, depending on the music. Sometimes he just hums and we start dancing. Date: Tue, 6 May 2014 22:37:16 +0000 To:


      • writingwingsforyou
        May 07, 2014 @ 08:59:08

        Totally sweet! The best part is that if someone came in the store, they’re usually smiling when they leave. Right? Thanks for spreading joy!


        • kanzensakura
          May 07, 2014 @ 11:24:28

          Yes they are. What got him started on that: the store was almost empty. there was a very pregnant woman shopping with her husband. He had wandered up to the other end of the aisle away from her. Some soft song started and he turned around and looked at her. And then sashaying to her, held out his arms and sang, “Come to me, my melon belly baby…” and held out his arms and they did just a very simple slow little waltz. I wept for joy at the sight of them. since then, my hubs and I have spontaneously done aisle dancing. we’re polite about it but when the music is right and it is almost empty. we’ll use most of the aisle! we’ve gotten smiles, applause, someone has joined us,….it is a smiley time.


  7. writingwingsforyou
    May 06, 2014 @ 18:41:44

    p.s. I forgot to add, that I’m so very glad that you have someone who loves you so well through everything. Sometimes we have to feel the pain to embrace the joy. You deserve this!


  8. Trackback: Throwback Tuesday – Romance – Inspired by a Fellow Blogger | writingwingsforyou
  9. FlaHam
    May 06, 2014 @ 19:48:30

    Kanzen, This is possible one of the sweetest, romantic and endearing, posts I have read. Your relationhship with your husband is indeed so so very special. I started smiling the moment I read that you started shaking your hips. You had my attention, and I thank you. Again a wonderful post. Please take care, Bill


    • kanzensakura
      May 06, 2014 @ 20:59:55

      I come from a family of hip shakers! Thank you Bill. I am so glad you enjoyed. I know you don’t care much for this type of music, but it certainly helped him work his magic on me. Be good and take care. Toni


  10. Line
    May 06, 2014 @ 19:58:46

    Oh, what a beautiful and romantic story!! I love such sweet love stories!! Your husband sounds so lovely and fun! 🙂 I am so happy you gave yourself another chance to be loved again!! 🙂 And I am so happy that you are happy and enjoying your glorious life!! Yaaay!! Let us all keep dancing!! 🙂 🙂 🙂


  11. seeker
    May 06, 2014 @ 23:39:01

    I love it! I love love stories and the song to boot. I can just see the two of you dancing whispering sweet nothing. Ah, makes my heart melt. Love it, what can I say!


  12. macjam47
    May 07, 2014 @ 14:22:11

    This is such a beautiful love story. You are very fortunate to have such a romantic man in your life.


  13. SirenaTales
    May 08, 2014 @ 10:05:58

    Yeah, baby! Let’s dance is right! This lovely, inspiring and joyful piece had me crying–so moving (pun not intended, but ok, fitting) and powerfully redemptive in love and courage. Thank you so much. And, hey, I am over here…on the dance floor and in the aisles with you. Shine on, my friend. xoxo


    • kanzensakura
      May 08, 2014 @ 10:27:27

      Isn’t love grand? I am so blessed. I was given another chance and I actually had the brains to take it. And my husband, he knew what we wanted and he just broke on through. After 14 years, we are still like newlyweds. And, sometimes, if the music on the sound system is right and the aisles aren’t crowded or almost empty, we will burst into spontaneous aisle dancing when we go shopping. I know you and your fellow dancers are going to just soar and fly and inspire this weekend. YAY!!!!!!! hugs Date: Thu, 8 May 2014 14:06:00 +0000 To:


  14. Animalcouriers
    May 08, 2014 @ 11:25:12

    What a truly lovely post!


  15. huntmode
    May 22, 2014 @ 01:07:44

    Ooooorrrraaahhh! The more I hear about this man of yours, the more I want to meet him and shake his hand that he had the wisdom and the courage to pursue and win you. Ooooorrrraaaahhhh! And, you had the wisdom, the heart and the love to open your arms and take him in. Eeeyaaahhh!


  16. Clowie
    May 23, 2014 @ 11:27:23

    What a beautiful moment!


  17. Mustang.Koji
    Jun 01, 2014 @ 01:19:36

    Oh, my… You’re a young-un! It was 45’s in my time. 😳 But what a romance it was indeed! And whenever you want to talk about Star Trek (the original one, mind you) or food, just holler.


    • kanzensakura
      Jun 01, 2014 @ 01:39:06

      Not such a young ‘un. I’m on the downhill slope to 63! I always enjoy talking about food and Star Trek. Like you, my blog covers more than one topic and food is a favorite. Unless noted, all of my Japanese recipes are from the Hakone region, in that style. There is among thosr who follow my blog a group of Trekkie, geek, foodie folk who make life fun and interesting. I think of doing just a haiku blog but then I think of the wonderful people I enjoy on a regular basis and keep things as they are.


Thank you for reading! I try to reciprocate all comments. If you want me to visit a particular post, please direct me directly to that post.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: