Holidays are coming: Thankfulness and light


Yes, I understand that sales are popping everywhere: online, in the stores, at the convenience stores, on TV. Yes I understand that Thursdays kicks off the official whirl of holiday gaiety, madness, and constant reminders to spend spend spend. I mean, that co-worker you barely know really needs to be re-gifted with that weird nutcracker Great Aunt Leticia gave you last year and your son’s current teacher desperately needs that cheap mug filled with 10 starlight mint candies and your mail carrier is seriously craving that $1 tiny piece of gourmet chocolate. Your cousin begged you for that $9.97 gift basket of one bath cube, mini bottle of body wash, that plastic fluffy scrubber, and useless sized loofah. I get it, the gift limit at the exchange was $10 and it was easy to grab the basket and you spent five minutes choosing between the lavender, pink, or yellow colors.

Heaven forbid that your child not get the latest $600 phone since all their friends will be getting one. And if you are blessed to have loving parents who are still alive, they specifically asked you for that $50 gift card to that restaurant they never go to. Hey, it was on display with other cards at the grocery checkout and we all know it’s the thought that counts. And be sure you schedule attendance at all the parties and open houses and cookie exchanges. Don’t forget that.

Several years ago, I was forced to get my priorities straight. I was home from being in hospital after surgery for cancer. I was not able physically to do shopping, put up decorations, cook tons of cookies that never all seemed to be eaten and grew stale and were thrown out to the birds, I had to send regrets to parties.  Thanksgiving was quiet and take Chinese food.

My husband pulled out of its box, a two foot fiber optic Christmas tree which fitted perfectly on the small table in front of the window in our family room. I was given by a friend, a special Nativity scene in honor of my being home and doing well. It went on the mantle of the family room. My family sent a gift card to a restaurant we liked and we used it to purchase our Christmas dinner: KFC fried chicken. My husband purchased a pie from a local bakery. Lights did not flash in our yard astounding people miles away. We didn’t have money for a pile of gifts so we made do with handmade cards with special wishes handwritten to each other.  We spent quiet time with each other and sang Christmas carols with each other.

It was one of the best Christmases ever. We delighted in the season of light and spent time with each other, a few friends who came to visit for a bit and who brought gifts of food and smiles. Silent snow fell and I wrapped myself in a quilt and stood on our front steps and looked up into the night sky. Silent night, holy night….

I am not tooting my horn here but you know, there really are better ways to spend your time and money. You truly do not have to spread darkness by arguing with sales people, pushing people out of the way to grab the last item on sale, buying something just to exchange because you have to. You can spread light by random acts of kindness, serving food at a shelter, getting toys for children in need, contributing to a fund that ensures children have warm coats for the winter, filling up boxes with food for the hungry, addressing cards for the elderly to send to their family, raking the yard of the neighbor you barely know but know he is laid up with a broken leg and his wife is 8 months pregnant, taking bags of food for animals at the local shelter, adopting an “angel” off an “angel” tree…the list goes on and on.

I am thankful this year for my family, for my health, for the love of God, for the kindness of people I know and for the kindness of strangers, for my friends, for plenty of food….I could list pages of what I am thankful. Light came into this world centuries ago without hoopla. His upcoming birth was not announced two weeks before Halloween, the Magi did not go to Black Friday sales to get their gifts as cheaply as possible, the shepherds did not arrive in the newest model SUV, the angels did not rock out to the latest soundtrack.

Simply, quietly, the Light of the World came to us. Because He loved us. So, what is your priority this year? What are you thankful for? How do you show your love?  How do you spread light in the darkness?

Thank you all for being my friends this year. Thank you for your prayers, good vibes, happy thoughts, sharing your light with me and mine. Thank you.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Melody Beattie


17 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Tina Blackledge
    Nov 26, 2014 @ 18:34:16

    There are few things like ill health of our own or more so of a loved one that sets your priorities straight very quickly. The true meaning of thankfulness is learned and everything else becomes senseless glitter. I get great joy from giving to those I love but my budget/circumstances restrict this greatly leaving me in an uncomfortable situation of being the recipient of gifts. I never feel comfortable when anyone does for me or gifts me anything as that has always been my role, the person who makes others happy, so it has been the most difficult adjustment for me. Growing up poor, we learned the joy of giving to others rather than getting ourselves. Whether it be a letter, a greeting card, a baked good, or a bought gift, I just love giving to others especially if I have found something that brings a true smile and not an obligatory reply. I tire of the commercialism of the entire holiday season but I feel there is a growing movement to cast the glitz aside and get back to the true meaning of the holidays.
    My earnest pray is that each person is able to feel truly thankful for something in their life on Thanksgiving and always. I also hope that each person will spend the next month doing something for someone else each and every day. If you want to feel what Christmas is all about then you must give from your heart to another each and every day. The love, joy, and peace that will grow in your heart will outshine the commercialism that has marred this holy season. Blessings upon you and your dear family this holiday and always. Thank you for posting this article and hitting the proverbial “nail on the head” in every way. God Bless you.


    • kanzensakura
      Nov 26, 2014 @ 19:22:08

      We were poor as well but we figured out ways to give to each other. A note, hand made gift, doing the dishes for my grandmother, walking the dog for my father…we actually gave to each other all through the year. Christmas was a time for family, friends, worship….Thank you for your wonderful comments. God’s richest blessings on your and yours all through this season and next year.


  2. Let's CUT the Crap!
    Nov 26, 2014 @ 18:57:45

    Well said. This is a great post! These last years have spoiled everyone: instant satisfaction, pull out the credit card and pay through the nose the rest of the year. Keep up with everyone else. Everyone’s on a hamster wheel they don’t know how to get off. Your post points out what is truly important.
    I hope everyone reads this and makes time to pause–and think. What is more important? People or things? Health or wealth? Giving of yourself or a gift with a huge price tag?


  3. huntmode
    Nov 26, 2014 @ 20:42:18

    Kanzen, while I love your poetry and your haikus, I love it when you open up the doors of your keyboard and expound on your thoughts as you have done so richly here. I shall reblog this in a few days to grab those who have done the sales things and are wondering why…. Truly well said and poignant. Thank you, Kanzen. My best ~ Huntie ❤


    • kanzensakura
      Nov 26, 2014 @ 20:51:06 dear, I feel being so wealthy in friends and family and miracles, that I may be a tad unfair to those who don’t think of their real gifts….as always, nowadays when I write such as th I, I have the voices of the Bitten Babes in my head, along with the voices of my blood family, the three that remain. The Newton Girls and Bitten Babes are truly sisters of the soul.


  4. joannesisco
    Nov 26, 2014 @ 21:34:59

    I love this message. It’s heart-felt and oh-so-true ❤


  5. bkpyett
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 03:43:11

    Wishing you love, good health and joy. Happy Thanksgiving! ❤


  6. njmyers
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 07:16:11

    “Light came into this world centuries ago without hoopla. His upcoming birth was not announced two weeks before Halloween, the Magi did not go to Black Friday sales to get their gifts as cheaply as possible, the shepherds did not arrive in the newest model SUV, the angels did not rock out to the latest soundtrack. Simply, quietly, the Light of the World came to us. Because He loved us.”

    Beautifully said. Thank you.


  7. gpcox
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 07:40:26

    Happy Thanksgiving!!!!!!!


  8. wholeproduction
    Nov 27, 2014 @ 22:45:58

    I don’t celebrate turkey day but good advice. 🙂


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