Eres Tu

Today is day 14 of Nannerwomo. Marian has given us our prompt today in the form of a music video about a happy gay wedding – Eres Tu. I was totally unfamiliar with the artist and music video prompts annoy me. so I cut off the sound and loved the video! This reminded me of my wedding day. My husband invited his aunts and uncles, I invited my friend, most of whom come from the LBGT community. Unlike the happy video, his family did not speak to my friends. They had a good time anyway and we all danced and disco’d down. His family left early. My best friend who is a lesbian was actually my husband’s “best man”. Come to Real Toads to read poetry for this poetry month. #30 in 30

Eres Tu
He looked at the picture and realized –
he looked like his father.
His father who disowned him.
He shaved off his beard and looked –
like himself.
Today of all days
he looked like himself –
Happy and at peace
and totally in love.
He stood with his partner
surrounded by friends and grandparents,
by those who truly loved them and wished them well.
The two figures on the wedding cake,
Two grooms –
will be placed in their china closet
to remind them of this happy day.
And that thankfully,
he isn’t his father.

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11 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. elleceef
    Apr 14, 2018 @ 17:10:50

    I like your poem, the celebration of love and his looking like himself. Your last lines tell the truth for him,” thankfully, he isn’t his father.”


  2. Sherry Marr
    Apr 14, 2018 @ 17:38:32

    Thankfully, indeed. Those who were there truly loved them. I love that he knows he isnt his father.


  3. Jim
    Apr 14, 2018 @ 18:26:50

    Oh!! Sooo good, Toni. I look somewhat like my dad but I never want to be him.


  4. Rosemary Nissen-Wade
    Apr 14, 2018 @ 18:37:20

    NIcely encapsulated.


  5. Margaret Elizabeth Bednar
    Apr 14, 2018 @ 20:45:27

    The sad thing is his father may love his son, might be hurting just as much … but just can’t change all that is in his mind. I think that is often the case and so very, very sad.


    • kanzensakura
      Apr 14, 2018 @ 21:28:40

      And it could be that his father is ashamed of him or is religiously against being gay. I know too many people whose parents disowned them and are ashamed of their children or disown them because of religious reasons. Years ago I worked as a volunteer with a local AIDS network whose parents threw their children out, even though their children were dying. People who would have died alone but with volunteers who stayed with them, letting them know they mattered to someone. Too often there is still a stigma today about being gay. I also worked a suicide hotline in the past two years for underage coming out youth. So while his father may have loved him, it seems he was also ashamed and did not come to his wedding. I think of a 12 year old girl who had been thrown out of her home by her grandmother. I was doing hospice enrollment at the time. Her mother’s lover raped her and infected her. Her grandmother threw her out into the street because she thought the child was a lesbian for fighting against the rape. She was found by a police officer who took her in to get her fed and warmed and called us. I went to the girl and knew she would not live long. I found an immediate placement for her in a hospice for children. As I washed her face and combed her poor filthy hair she asked me if she was going to die. I told her yes but that she would be loved and mourned. She died two weeks later. Working closely with the LGBT community, I can tell you, too many parents throw their children away for being gay. Too can many. We want to look at a happy video and think the best, but there is reality.


  6. Vivian Zems
    Apr 14, 2018 @ 23:00:16

    This is sweetly narrated…and very much in keeping with the video!


  7. kim881
    Apr 15, 2018 @ 03:08:42

    I love the description of your own wedding day, Toni, and the way it contrasted with the wedding. I have to say, I had to turn off the sound on the video, too.. Your poem is ekphrastic, true to the images in the video, and I like that you focused on the shaving of the beard:
    ‘He looked at the picture and realized –
    he looked like his father.
    His father who disowned him.
    He shaved off his beard and looked –
    like himself’.


    • kanzensakura
      Apr 15, 2018 @ 11:54:53

      Yes. I liked that bit of detail in the video. Without the sound you can see the little things so much better. I loved the video without the sound. It took me a minute to catch on but I was so happy when I did.

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  8. sanaarizvi
    Apr 15, 2018 @ 09:18:33

    Beautifully poignant!💞


  9. Marian
    Apr 16, 2018 @ 11:04:26



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